Chances are, if you are guy with any sort of dating experience there's a high chance you've heard the dreaded "lets just be friends" line. If somehow you have been blessed with never having to endure such a thing, you my friend are lucky, but be warned, it may still creep up on you.
The last 4+ months of my life have been devoted to a lady friend. Apparently she liked me, I kind of fell for her as well but in the end I got served. Being a nice guy that I am and not much dating experience to rely upon I decided I could be just friends with her. Let me tell you how wrong I was…
Unless you find somebody new to fill your gap, the image of this girl will always be there, poking you in all the wrong places. So the proper thing to do is to completely sever all contact. Ideally it is best to do that in the nicest way possible, because down the road once you've licked your wounds shut, you may actually want to have her as a friend. Until that time, you have to get one thing through your head. The reason she played the ljbf card is because something in her head clicked the wrong way. Meaning as far as she's concerned you are no longer relationship material. If you know what you did wrong, good lesson learned. If not, then chances are it wasn't so much your fault as she just doesn't know what she wants.
Whatever you do, do NOT stay friends. Trust me, you won't be able to do it. Each time you talk to her, or see her, you will re-live your emotions and feelings that you experienced when things looked promising. Forget about her not because you hate her, but because you love yourself enough to not waste your time where it is not appreciated.
If you for some wild reason decide to stay friends, you will be subjected to any number of the following things:
She will treat you as a friend and tell you all the details about…
- Who she went out with last night
- How late she was up
- Where she went
- What new hot guy she met
- How she hasn't had sex in so long
and so on and so forth
Trust me when I tell you, that you will not be able to process all that information without jealousy and constant regret.
Oh and whatever you do, don't regret anything you did to get you to your situation. Life is a lesson, if you got served, its because you needed the experience, so if anything you should be thankful. Experience is truly priceless.
Happy fishing. 😉