The pursuit of happiness

That’s happiness with a ‘i’, not a ‘y’.

A good movie, which is kind of appropriate and follows well with my previous post.

One day, a man was drowning in the water. And a boat came by and said, ‘Do you need any help?’
He said, ‘No, thank you. God will save me.’ Then another boat came by. said, ‘Do you need any help?’ And he said, ‘No, thank you. God will save me.’ Then he drowned, and he went to heaven.

And he said, ‘God, why didn’t you save me?’ And God said, ‘l sent you two big boats, you dummy.’

-Christopher

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Is anything ever easy at first?

I was helping my mom around the yard today. The weather is finally beautiful.

She asked me to make a border around one of our gardens. I had to grab a shovel and bend over digging up a trench around the garden. Easy stuff, but after doing the circumference of the garden my lower back was in pain. Which prompted me to ponder about how rarely things come easy in life.

On our first attempt at something new, we are often greeted with discouragement because we encounter pain, fatigue and failure.  A lot of the time we get discouraged and don’t try to improve. In reality of course all it takes is time.

HG Wells – If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.

Song of the day: Gym Class Heroes – Cupids Chokehold

Truth

Being nice is easy, being indifferent is hard.

How do you act indifferent to a girl that you fancy? Seems like an impossible task. For a lot of people it makes more sense to accommodate for her every move in hopes of getting her to like you. People are odd. I’m sure you’ve had the experience of when you found out that somebody had a crush on you. If that person is very open about it, complements you on your every step and tries to make you see how they are willing to do anything for you, you will have lost interest instantly.

Guys reside in only two categories, as far as women are concerned. You’re either dating material or you’re everybody else. Initially every guy has a shot at the dating material zone but for the majority of us that quickly changes. Once you’re exiled from the dating material category, you’re a goner. There have been documented cases of returns however they are as rare as reincarnations. The reason that most guys get a shot at the dating material category is because, despite what you think, she has no idea about who you are, what you’re like and what you are about. Yes that’s right, mystery is your strongest weapon.

Say too much, too soon and you have been demystified. It doesn’t matter if you think so or not. You have to remember that people judge each other constantly. Whenever we get a new piece of information about someone, it shapes our feelings about them. The more we know, the less we care. Just like when reading a book, you start at the beginning and work your way through.

This obviously relates to my post yesterday, less is more young grasshopper, less is more.

A lame sort of day

Today I woke up in one of those moods. Those moods where everything seems bland, you’re tired the daily grind and really the only remedy seems to just keep sleeping because thinking about anything is just annoying.

This feeling comes on the heels of yesterday, a day which was full of too much emotion. I called her to setup our date, so as you can imagine being at work all day, I spent too much thinking about the wrong thing.

The rule is that such a phone call should really only last about 10 minutes max. I managed to even fuck that up. I knew going in that I would have to keep it short and sweet but somewhere I lost track of things. I ended up talking to her for around 50 minutes. I was quite pissed with my unacceptable performance, but that’s ok I tell my self today. You live you fuck up and you learn. Gotta remember, failure is key. That thought certainly still does make you feel better. Suddenly failure is an accomplishment all to itself. Everybody likes to accomplish something. Anyways I digress. Towards the end of her questions and stories and my willingness to answer them I finally remembered what I called her for in the first place. So she ran through her week and apparently she’s busy pretty much everyday with one thing or another. In the end it was going to be Friday but I bumped it up to Thursday night. That gives me two days to spend thinking about anything else.

Honestly today I woke up wondering why I care so much. I still don’t know, feels like there is stuff that has to get sorted out. The lesson being of course, keep it short and sweet, around ten minutes maximum. I doesn’t matter if you’re having a good conversation, make some shit up and say that you have to go, make you plans and get on with it. You will not only feel proud but your ego will be strong. Yes it may not be easy, or seem like the proper thing to do, but trust me, you have to leave people wanting more. Being satisfied is boring, being thirsty is what propels us. Obviously don’t think that it’s a big deal, I mean just look at me, I messed it up but I live another day. So if you don’t believe me, please feel free to do it your own way. Of course the main reason that I say all this is for the simple fact that you don’t want to invest too much time into a relationship away from actual dates. Remember everybody’s best game is, and what actually counts the most is on the dates themselves. However if you talk to her on the phone for way too long, or on msn, you risk ruining your first impression.

If you do “mess up” and talk to her for an hour instead of 10 minutes be ready for a whiplash of hindsight. You will look back and think, had you only done this or that differently then the outcome will have had a much more positive potential. Ignore and don’t dwell on hindsight. Yes you could have, yes you should have but at the end of the day you might still get lucky. Even if you don’t (chances of getting lucky are not really all that high) then make a notch on your experience belt, straighten yourself out and move forward. Because if there is anything I learned, it’s that to be happy with anything, you have to earn it. When we get things for free, or without effort we do not appreciate them because we do not understand what it takes to obtain them. So the biggest gift of all, is the experience that you gain on your way to the goal. Your goal is just the light at the end of the tunnel that is the icing on the cake.

You are the prize 😉

“They have it easier than me”

They may or may not have it easier. It doesn’t matter. There are guys who have it easier than you and guys who have it harder. Life isn’t fair that’s why that druggy friend of yours is driving the car of your dreams, or why you ex-friend is dating sleeping with your girl. Thing is, in life there is no absolute right or wrong, fair or unfair. I’ve just recently come to believe in the idea that failure is what makes us great. If everything was easy, fair and nice we wouldn’t get anywhere.

In fact if you think about it, we all have a unique opportunity to fail. In today’s society failure is regarded as negative thing when in reality without failure, enlightenment, progress and greatness would all be unattainable. The sooner you accept failure, you accept responsibility and recognize your ability to get up and try again, suddenly a world of possibility is available to you. Just think about it, when you fail you are given insight into how things work, you are presented a chance to discover and learn.

Rid yourself from fear of failure and you can attain great things.

Thus in the long run it doesn’t matter that girls have it “easier”, this fragment in time that you observing is just a spec in the overall scheme of things. Everybody has their own path, comparing yourself to the progress of others just makes you lose out on your own opportunities.

In reply to, “Women have it easy – it’s always like this?” on SoSuave

Underwear goes inside your pants

Why is marijuana not legal? Why is marijuana not legal? It’s a natural plant that grows in the dirt. Do you know what’s not natural? 80 year old dudes with hard-ons. That’s not natural. But we got pills for that. We’re dedicating all our medical resources to keeping the old guys erect, but we’re putting people in jail for something that grows in the dirt? You know we have more prescription drugs now. Every commercial that comes on TV is a prescription drug ad. I can’t watch TV for four minutes without thinking I have five serious diseases. Like: “Do you ever wake up tired in the morning?” Oh my god I have this, write this down. Whatever it is, I have it. Half the time I don’t even know what the commercial is: people running in fields or flying kites or swimming in the ocean. I’m like that is the greatest disease ever. How do you get that? That disease comes with a hot chick and a puppy.

The schools now: It is all about self-esteem in the schools now. Build the kids’ self-esteem, make them feel good about themselves. If everybody grows up with high self-esteem, who is going to dance in our strip clubs? What’s going to happen to our porno industry? These women don’t just grown on trees. It takes lots of drunk dads missing dance recitals before you decide to blow a goat on the internet for fifty bucks. And if that disappears, where does that leave me on a Friday night with my new high speed connection?

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Watchful Eyes

I updated my books page and one of the updates was 1984 by George Orwell.
That was an interesting book. Perhaps the most interesting part of the book to me, was when the main character (who’s name already escapes me) was reading a book, which was considered to be the Bible of the revolution. The reason it was the most interesting was indeed because of how closely it related to what we are experiencing today. The rest of the book was rather twisted and at times disturbing. People who say they love the book, either haven’t read it, or read it a long time ago. There is nothing to love about the book, the book is mostly to be admired and the author praised for his foresight.

Here is some food for thought,

watchful eyes